Divorce and a Reluctant Spouse

 Posted on May 12, 2015 in Divorce

A successful marriage requires the full investment and cooperation of both partners. Conversely, a marriage will deteriorate quickly if one partner is no longer interested in preserving the relationship. While the marriage may be falling apart, divorce can be even more difficult if one spouse is reluctant to accept the end of the marriage. However, if you have decided that you wish to pursue a divorce and your spouse refuses to consider the idea, there a few things that you can do.

Be Respectful of the Process

When you decide you are ready for divorce, you probably did not arrive at that conclusion without a great deal of thought and consideration. It is important to recognize that your spouse deserves the opportunity to think and consider the situation in the same way. By telling him or her that you want out of the marriage, the resulting emotional turbulence can make it very difficult for your spouse to objectively look at the future of the marriage. Give him or her the space necessary to process the reality of the relationship, and, over time, it is possible that the necessary solution will become evident.

Consider Counseling

Marriage counseling may seem like an option only for those who are looking to salvage their relationship. However, when approached with an honest attitude, you may be able to use such a forum to clarify your feelings and motivations about your desire for divorce. Some professionals even offer a type of service known as discernment counseling, designed to help couples determine if divorce is ultimately in their best interest. It is vital, however, that you do not mislead your spouse regarding your intentions for counseling, as that will only foster distrust and acrimony.

Use Your Time Wisely

While your reluctant spouse is working toward understanding your wishes for divorce, you may find it helpful to begin preparing for the divorce. This does not mean that you should start taking your spouse’s name off of accounts without permission, for example, but it may mean developing an inventory of marital property or assembling your personal financial records. It is advisable, though, that you proceed to such a step with respect for your spouse, and not to take action that would directly affect him or her until you are both ready to move forward.

Contact a Lawyer

No matter what situation you may be facing as you approach your divorce, a qualified legal professional can help you through the process. Contact an experienced Rolling Meadows divorce attorney at the Cosley Law Office. We have worked with many clients seeking a divorce from a reluctant spouse and understand the inherent challenges. Call today to schedule your free consultation.